बुद्धिर्ज्ञानमसंमोहः क्षमा सत्यं दमः शमः।सुखं दुःखं भवोऽभावो भयं चाभयमेव च॥
buddhir jñānam asammohaḥ kṣamā satyaṃ damaḥ śamaḥsukhaṃ duḥkhaṃ bhavo ’bhāvo bhayaṃ cābhayameva ca
Word by word
The verse says
Intelligence, knowledge, freedom from confusion, patience, truthfulness, restraint of the senses and quiet of mind; pleasure and pain, coming into being and passing away, fear, and freedom from fear —
In plain words
A list of qualities, and look at what is on it together.
Patience and truthfulness, which we think of as achievements. Pleasure and pain, which nobody chooses. Fear, and its absence.
All of it in one sentence, with nothing marking the difference.
Where you've felt this · in relationships
On a morning when everything has gone wrong, you surprise yourself by being patient with somebody who deserves less. You did not decide to be. It simply arrived, the same way the bad mood arrived an hour earlier, and you had as little say in one as in the other.
Going deeper
Putting earned qualities and unearned conditions in a single list is the move here, and it is doing something deliberate.
We sort our inner weather into two piles. Patience, honesty and clarity go in the pile marked character, which we take credit for. Fear, pain and dullness go in the pile marked circumstance, which we blame on the day. The verse does not keep the piles apart. Everything on the list is described as arising from one source.
That is uncomfortable in both directions, which is a sign it is not flattery.
What it offers is a steadier relationship with your own states. The patience you managed on Tuesday was not entirely your doing, so the impatience on Wednesday is not entirely your failing. Both came through you. Neither is the measure of you.